Man is not a perfected being. Man makes mistakes. Sometimes they are found out; at other times they remain hidden. But whatever happens, they are known to the doer. Since all of us have an inner conscience, our mistakes become an albatross around our necks. The manifestation of this is guilt. When our mistakes are found out, this feeling manifests itself as shame. But should they be so?
Let us analyse this in a little more depth. People think that we feel guilty when we try to hide some wrong-doing from others. Most of the times it is true; but this need not always be the case: Man will feel guilty if he thinks that he has done something wrong and he thinks that others don't know about it. There is no question of the facts here. It's all a matter of perception. Similar is the case with shame.
Since it is a matter of perception, the feelings of guilt and shame cannot be imposed on us by somebody else, unless we have given away the keys of our emotional storeroom to others. Since these feelings are in our own hands, we can control them and make a very positive use of them. Indeed, for most of the times they are used to correct our attitude towards our internal problems and how we can solve them. But when they are allowed to be controlled by others, they are often manipulated and force the subject into a sense of inferiority. That is where the point of emotional blackmailing starts: every case makes use of our lack of control over these two conditions.
Remember, our life is our own. Though we make it useful for others, we must not let others make use of it. Our emotions reflect our state of energy: bad emotions result in lowered energy levels, and consequently lowered self-esteem. The man who wishes to conquer his emotions must have an appropriate controlled response to these twin emotions.
Let us analyse this in a little more depth. People think that we feel guilty when we try to hide some wrong-doing from others. Most of the times it is true; but this need not always be the case: Man will feel guilty if he thinks that he has done something wrong and he thinks that others don't know about it. There is no question of the facts here. It's all a matter of perception. Similar is the case with shame.
Since it is a matter of perception, the feelings of guilt and shame cannot be imposed on us by somebody else, unless we have given away the keys of our emotional storeroom to others. Since these feelings are in our own hands, we can control them and make a very positive use of them. Indeed, for most of the times they are used to correct our attitude towards our internal problems and how we can solve them. But when they are allowed to be controlled by others, they are often manipulated and force the subject into a sense of inferiority. That is where the point of emotional blackmailing starts: every case makes use of our lack of control over these two conditions.
Remember, our life is our own. Though we make it useful for others, we must not let others make use of it. Our emotions reflect our state of energy: bad emotions result in lowered energy levels, and consequently lowered self-esteem. The man who wishes to conquer his emotions must have an appropriate controlled response to these twin emotions.
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